Life is never fair.
Those infamous words every parent known to man has spoken to a whiny child, which only gives them a tiny glimpse of just how unfair the world really is. Sure it starts with Mom or Dad not letting you see that R Rated movie or not buying you the latest phone to keep up with Jessica who always has the best, but it soon turns into so much more. Responsibilities of one kind or another occur, whether it be paying rent, having to get a job to pay said rent, or having to deal with car payments, which require you to work even more to keep up with. You say “I’ll go to college, get a degree and just have a great job to do all this, no need to complicate things.”, to which I merely say student loans. More work looms ahead of you there as well. Then there are those, like myself, who have these issues as well as kids.
These responsibilities keep us grounded in reality, even if this reality just doesn’t seem fair and makes us want to be lost in fantasy worlds.
I grew up playing video game, most free moments I had a controller in my hand. Home from school? Video Games. 3 Day Weekend? Video Games? The music I listen to while I write these? You guessed it, Video Games. It was almost impossible to pull the controller from my grip. Those days ended right around the end of High School, when my father let the harsh reality of life smack me in the face. I needed to go out, get a job and start paying rent in his home or in my own. I know other kids my age had already had jobs in high school, but I was allowed to focus on my studies before being thrown to the wolves at 18.
From that moment on, getting to play any sort of game has been a luxury. Finding time between relationships, work, and now family is a daunting task, leaving me with either getting up in the wee hours of the morning before work to play, or staying up passed a reasonable time to sleep once I get off of work. It’s a very tricky balance, but isn’t entirely hard to find.
Growing up, my only saving grace in difficult family situations, broken homes, and silent upbringing, was video games. I decided a long time ago that there was no way I’d leave gaming out of my life, since it was the cornerstone of my upbringing. It shaped me, gave me joy, brought me friends, and even helped discover I had the talent to write. I refused to let games fade into the background.
So What Was My Solution?
Well, it’s not foolproof, nothing truly is, since if money isn’t available buying new games isn’t simple. However, with a decent back log of older games, free game releases from PS Plus, and the occasional rental (yes those still exist) I find the means to play. Time is an issue, or at least it would be if I didn’t have an understanding with my wife that I do occasionally need to relax with video games, or we find time to play together. One day, I’ll even play with my kids, at the moment it’s not so easy to coordinate that, but it is in the works. Working around the work schedule, family time, and friends is a pain but it’s manageable. The ways sound simple, and I’m sure many people have already figured out these “secrets”, but I’m writing this just to say it’s possible. Life can suck, it can be downright cruel, but it isn’t impossible to do what you love, you just might lose a little sleep sometimes.
Have any particular ways you find to Adult and play video games? :Let me know and maybe throw in some tips for, ya know, a friend.
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